Good Leaders Make You Feel Safe ?


What makes a great leader? Management theorist Simon Sinek suggests, it’s someone who makes their employees feel secure, who draws staffers into a circle of trust. But creating trust and safety — especially in an uneven economy — means taking on big responsibility.

In this famous Ted Talk Simon Sinek talks about the behaviours of a leader which enables the team to flourish, feel safe and have a desire to serve others. He talks about getting the environment right, forming a circle of safety, enable people to trust each other and look after each other.|

It’s the leader that sets the tone. He talks about it being a leader’s choice to sacrifice results by putting the needs of the people first. When we feel safe inside and organisation, we will work together to overcome threats. If a leader sacrifices their people, through redundancy for example, we have a visceral reaction to this, as it drives a sense of mistrust.

In social care our threats are varied. These can be environmental; political, financial. But the message remains the same, as a leader you must make your people feel safe.

What do you do to make your people feel safe?


Simon Sinek (00:13):
“There’s a man by the name of Captain William Swenson, who recently was awarded the Congressional Medal of Honor for his actions on September 8th, 2009. On that day, a column of American and Afghan troops were making their way through a part of Afghanistan to help protect a group of government officials, a group of Afghan government officials who’d be meeting with some local village elders. The column came under ambush and was surrounded on three sides. And amongst many other things, Captain Swenson was recognised for running into live fire to rescue the wounded and pull out the dead. One of the people he rescued was a sergeant and he and a comrade were making their way to a medevac helicopter. And what was remarkable about this day is, by sheer coincidence, one of the medevac medics happened to have a GoPro camera on his helmet and captured the whole scene on camera.”

Simon Sinek (01:21):
“It shows Captain Swenson and his comrade bringing this wounded soldier who’d received a gunshot to the neck. They put him in the helicopter, and then you see Captain Swenson bend over and give him a kiss before he turns around to rescue more. I saw this and I thought to myself, “Where do people like that come from? What is that? That is some deep, deep emotion when you would want to do that. There’s a love there.” And I want to know why is it that I don’t have people that I work with like that. You know, in the military they give medals to people who are willing to sacrifice themselves that others may gain. In business, we give bonuses to people who are willing to sacrifice others so that we may gain back. We have it backward. Right? So I ask myself, “Where do people like this come from?”

Simon Sinek (02:19):
“And my initial conclusion was that they’re just better people. That’s why they’re attracted to the military. These better people are attracted to this concept of service. But that’s completely wrong. What I learned is that it’s the environment. And if you get the environment right, every single one of us has the capacity to do these remarkable things and, more importantly, others have that capacity, too. I’ve had the great honor of getting to meet some of these who we would call heroes, who’ve put themselves and put their lives at risk to save others. And I asked them, “Why would you do it? Why did you do it?” And they all say the same thing, “Because they would have done it for me.” It’s this deep sense of trust and cooperation. So trust and cooperation are really important here. The problem with concepts of trust and cooperation is that they are feelings.”

Simon Sinek (03:08):
“They’re not instructions. I can’t simply say to you, “Trust me,” and you will. I can’t simply instruct two people to cooperate and they will. It’s not how it works. It’s a feeling. So where does that feeling come from? If you go back 50,000 years to the Paleolithic era, to the early days of Homosapien, what we find is that the world was filled with danger. All of these forces working very, very hard to kill us. Nothing personal. Whether it was the weather, lack of resources, maybe a saber-toothed tiger, all of these things working to reduce our lifespan. And so we evolved into social animals where we live together and work together in what I call a circle of safety inside the tribe, where we felt like we belong. And when we felt safe amongst our own, the natural reaction was trust and cooperation. There are inherent benefits to this.”

Simon Sinek (04:02):
“It means I can fall asleep at night and trust that someone from within my tribe will watch for danger. If we don’t trust each other, if I don’t trust you that means you won’t watch for danger. Bad system of survival. The modern-day is exactly the same thing. The world is filled with danger, things that are trying to frustrate our lives, or reduce our success, reduce our opportunity for success. It could be the ups and downs of the economy, the uncertainty of the stock market. It could be a new technology that renders your business model obsolete overnight, or it could be your competition that is sometimes trying to kill you. It’s sometimes trying to put you out of business, but at the very minimum is working hard to frustrate your growth and steal your business from you. We have no control over these forces. These are a constant, and they’re not going away. The only variable are the conditions inside the organisation. And that’s where leadership matters because it’s the leader that sets the tone. When a leader makes the choice to put the safety and lives of the people inside the organisation first, to sacrifice their comforts and sacrifice the tangible results so that the people remain and feel safe and feel like they belong, remarkable things happen.”

Simon Sinek (05:14):
“I was flying on a trip and I was witness to an incident where a passenger attempted to board before their number was called. And I watched the gate agent treat this man like he had broken the law, like a criminal. He was yelled at for attempting to board one group too soon. So I said something. I said, “Why do you have to treat us like cattle? Why can’t you treat us like human beings?” And this is exactly what she said to me. She said, “Sir, if I don’t follow the rules, I could get in trouble or lose my job.” All she was telling me is that she doesn’t feel safe. All she was telling me is that she doesn’t trust her leaders. The reason we like flying Southwest Airlines is not because they necessarily hire better people. It’s because they don’t fear their leaders.”

Simon Sinek (06:07):
“You see, if the conditions are wrong, we’re forced to expend our own time and energy to protect ourselves from each other. And that inherently weakens the organisation. When we feel safe inside the organisation, we will naturally combine our talents and our strengths and work tirelessly to face the dangers outside that seize the opportunities. The closest analogy I can give to what a great leader is is like being a parent. If you think about what being a great parent is, what do you want? What makes a great parent? We want to give our child opportunities, education, discipline them when necessary, all so that they can grow up and achieve more than we could for ourselves. Great leaders want exactly the same thing. They want to provide their people opportunity, education, discipline when necessary, build their self-confidence, give them the opportunity to try and fail, all so that they could achieve more than we could ever imagine for ourselves.”

Simon Sinek (06:59):
“Charlie Kim, who’s the CEO of a company called Next Jump in New York City, a tech company, he makes the point that if you had hard times in your family, would you ever consider laying off one of your children? We would never do it. Then why do we consider laying off people inside our organisation? Charlie implemented a policy of lifetime employment. If you get a job at Next Jump, you cannot get fired for performance issues. In fact, if you have issues they will coach you and they will give you support. Just like we would with one of our children who happens to come home with a C from school. It’s the complete opposite. This is the reason so many people have such a visceral hatred, sort of anger at some of these banking CEOs with their disproportionate salaries and bonus structures. It’s not the numbers. It’s that they have violated the very definition of leadership.”

Simon Sinek (07:52):
“They have violated this deep-seated social contract. We know that they allowed their people to be sacrificed so they could protect their own interests or worse, they sacrificed their people to protect their own interest. This is what’s so offends us, not the numbers. Would anybody be offended if we gave a $150 million bonus to Gandhi? How about a $250 million bonus to Mother Teresa? Do we have an issue with that? None at all. None at all. Great leaders would never sacrifice the people to save the numbers. They would sooner sacrifice the numbers to save the people. Bob Chapman, who runs a large manufacturing company in the Midwest called Barry-Wehmiller, in 2008 it was hit very hard by the recession and they lost 30% of their orders overnight. Now in a large manufacturing company, this is a big deal and they could no longer afford their labor pool.”

Simon Sinek (08:48):
“They needed to save $10 million. So, like so many companies today, the board got together and discussed layoffs. And Bob refused. You see, Bob doesn’t believe in head counts. Bob believes in heart counts, and it’s much more difficult to simply reduce the heart count. And so they came up with a furlough program. Every employee from secretary to CEO was required to take four weeks of unpaid vacation. They could take it anytime they wanted, and they did not have to take it consecutively, but it was how Bob announced the program that mattered so much. He said, “It’s better that we should all suffer a little than any of us should have to suffer a lot.” And morale went up. They saved $20 million. And most importantly, as would be expected when the people feel safe and protected by the leadership in the organisation, the natural reaction is to trust and cooperate and, quite spontaneously, nobody expected, people started trading with each other. Those who could afford it more would trade with those who could afford it less. People would take five weeks so that somebody else only had to take three.”

Simon Sinek (09:59):
“Leadership is a choice. It is not a rank. I know many people at the senior-most levels of organisations who are absolutely not leaders. They are authorities. And we do what they say because they have authority over us, but we would not follow them. And I know many people who are at the bottoms of organisations who have no authority and they are absolutely leaders. And this is because they have chosen to look after the person to the left of them, and they have chosen to look after the person to the right of them. This is what a leader is. I heard a story of some Marines who were out in theatre.”

Simon Sinek (10:39):
“And, as is the Marine custom, the officer ate last and he let his men eat first. And when they were done, there was no food left for him. And when they went back out in the field, his men brought him some of their food so that he may eat because that’s what happens. We call them leaders because they go first. We call them leaders because they take the risks before anybody else does. We call them leaders because they will choose to sacrifice so that their people may be safe and protected and so their people may gain. And when we do, the natural response is that our people will sacrifice for us. They will give us their blood and sweat and tears to see that their leader’s vision comes to life. And when we ask them, “Why would you do that? Why would you give your blood and sweat and tears for that person?” they all say the same thing, “Because they would have done it for me.” And isn’t that the organisation we would all like to work in?”

Thank you very much. Thank you. Thank you.



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